tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post6933676142477371028..comments2023-10-28T05:44:34.489-07:00Comments on family feeding dynamics: worry about weight, two reader perspectives...familyfeedingdynamicshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09049399245893420332noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-31003690705339379132010-09-03T13:38:20.193-07:002010-09-03T13:38:20.193-07:00Jessica, SO TRUE!!! I see this so often, and it st...Jessica, SO TRUE!!! I see this so often, and it starts at birth with the little ones, I have heard many parent told, "Do whatever you have to to get food into that kid." NO NO NO!!! That's why I do what I do. I hope that the MD's might listen to another MD, or at least be open to the fact that they need more training and information. We'll see. My reception so far with MDs has been positive, but I need to reach more! What is ironic is that MD's generally don't want to pay for workshops etc, while nutritionists and others do. I think the MDs got so used to having everything paid for by drug reps. All the MD outreach I do is volunteer, but they are an essential piece to helping solve this insanity...familyfeedingdynamicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09049399245893420332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-30244524477092514422010-09-03T12:57:45.853-07:002010-09-03T12:57:45.853-07:00FWIW, my son, who was born "average" len...FWIW, my son, who was born "average" length and height popped off the top of the charts around 6 weeks and stayed there (off the chart height, off the chart head circumference, 90-95th percentile weight). He's now a super tall 3.5 year old and looks long and lean. I'm slender and so is my husband and no one ever said a thing to us about changing his diet (my very sensible pediatrician simply told me: have him eat what you eat, drink the milk you like to drink, etc.).<br /><br />A friend of mine who had an eating disorder in college (and now eats normally and is very slim thanks to lots of running) has had two chubby babies. Her first daughter was adorable, but so chunky they had to order special wide shoes for her when she started to walk because her feet were too pudgy to fit in normal width toddler shoes. The doctor started talking about restricting and, thankfully, my friend refused to listen-- she just said, "I really think it's just the way she's growing". Now, at age four, her eldest has shot up and thinned out and is in every way healthy and "normal". Her second little one seems to be following the same pattern.<br /><br />Almost all the kids with eating issues I know are ones where the Moms got the bejeezus scared out of them by a pediatrician talking about weight gain-- then the Mom tried to force feed them, then it became a power struggle, then the kids began living on air and bites of high calorie snacks between meals, the end. Why does this happen over and over?Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04520929165765199154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-81809343221357637372010-09-02T13:49:56.287-07:002010-09-02T13:49:56.287-07:00I can relate so, so much to the first commenter! ...I can relate so, so much to the first commenter! My daughter was born a normal weight (7lb 10oz). Around 6 months she started slowing in growth. At 9 months I started hearing about her head size maybe being too small. By 12 months the ped. was officially CONCERNED. So off we go for metabolic testing, skull and wrist xrays, blood work, etc.. Prognosis? The kid is small!!! She was 18 months old and was still at 18 pounds when I started hearing about "fattening her up". Add mayo and bbq sauce and cream sauce to all her food, give her more cheese, etc.. Oh, and give her that PediaSure stuff. Sigh. She hates mayo, bbq and wouldn't go NEAR PediaSure. I didn't force it. She still won't drink flavored milk or milkshakes. Just plain skim milk. Hearing my child would be labeled "failure to thrive" scared me to death, but I knew she was NORMAL FOR HER!<br /><br />In the end, I decided I didn't care. She got a new pediatrician and I let the chips fall where they may by just continuing to feed healthy foods and letting her body do it's job. She ate PLENTY of food, she just apparently metabolizes it very quickly and won't hold fat.<br /><br />Fast forward to 9 years old: she's still small. She could care less. In fact, she enjoys her role as "small girl" on her cheer squad since she is a flyer (the one's tossed in the air and on the top in the pyramid). And she knows her body is healthy just the way it is... without any need for force feeding or eating high calorie crap.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11081678389884304356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-62736402781982080522010-09-02T13:16:08.940-07:002010-09-02T13:16:08.940-07:00here's another great story from a mom on Faceb...here's another great story from a mom on Facebook:<br /><br />"I nursed both kids as long as I could (still less than 6 mos. :( ), and both were fat babies. I always heard that the brain is composed of fat, and that baby fat was necessary for brain growth spurts. Don't know if that's true, but it helped me feel less anxious. And right before they hit puberty, both boys developed pudgy middles. I held my breath and bit my tongue due to my own issues, and lo and behold, they shot up and slimmed down, despite eating like bottomless pits! (sigh of relief)."familyfeedingdynamicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09049399245893420332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-80055570673157848882010-09-02T10:09:18.528-07:002010-09-02T10:09:18.528-07:00ruthreader, I love your story! We need to trust ki...ruthreader, I love your story! We need to trust kids IF we do our job with feeding and supporting activity.familyfeedingdynamicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09049399245893420332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-20081821551260867552010-09-02T10:08:30.263-07:002010-09-02T10:08:30.263-07:00Suzain, I'd like to see what evidence you are ...Suzain, I'd like to see what evidence you are referring to other than anecdotal. Yes, large adults have larger kids, but they CAN and DO grow at a steady and healthy rate. Many adults are fatter than their genetics may have intended because they tried to diet or reach an unattainable thin ideal. The dieting cycle, the disordered eating is what made them fatter, not necessarily the genes. (For example, a genetic setpoint may have been 175 for a person, and in an effort to reach an "ideal" weight of 140, she begins lifelong dieting starting in her teens. 90+% of dieters gain the weight back, most with extra weight, so after several cycles, this woman is no 260 pounds, instead of a perfectly healthy 175. The genes did not make her 270 pounds, dieting, stress, skipping meals did. It doesn't mean that she can't have a child who is perfectly healthy, maybe bigger IF the child is fed well and has the opportunity to move her body in a reliable way. Alas, many fat adults who diet-cycle often raise children who do the same. Fat parents also tend to restrict their children more because they don't want to have a fat child, because they have been told that restricting the child will make them slim, when in fact it is more likely to do the opposite. So, yes, genetics plays a role, but HOW the children is fed is much more likely to determine if the child grows to a healthy weight-for her. I simply can't accept your premise that all children of fat adults will be fat. (Wouldn't then all children of slim parents be slim if genetics was all that mattered?) Perhaps you have a personal experience you are thinking of...familyfeedingdynamicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09049399245893420332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-81474575991210028462010-09-02T09:04:16.568-07:002010-09-02T09:04:16.568-07:00I suspect that either underfeeding a baby/child or...I suspect that either underfeeding a baby/child or dieting while pregnant triggers thrifty genes and makes it more likely that the baby will be a fat adult.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06552536682266812179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-48480866159018805742010-09-01T23:50:29.169-07:002010-09-01T23:50:29.169-07:00reply to second comment.
As you said you and you...reply to second comment. <br /><br />As you said you and your husband both are fat, then may be your child will gain weight after some year, now if you worry about his weight then later he grow a lot of weight then your expectation, ,some genetics reason will cause for weight gain later...believe me.. <br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.weightgain.org/category/baby-weight-gain" rel="nofollow">Baby weight gain</a>syedshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12555667882791359184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-30181156591721284012010-09-01T15:12:44.804-07:002010-09-01T15:12:44.804-07:00Oh for goodness sake! my very slender 12 year old ...Oh for goodness sake! my very slender 12 year old was ALWAYS above 100th percentile for ht and wt as an infant and toddler. So were many of her peers. Nobody worried about this. Unfortunately parents with babes in the 50th percentile ( isn't that supposed to be normal?) had everyone - dr.s, nurses, lactation specialists, freaking out about these "starving" babies. The pressure put on parents was awful, sometimes I felt like crying in sympathy. I guess it depends on the local "health care culture" (i live in British Columbia Canada)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09300447384412921729noreply@blogger.com