tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post3216380968677325808..comments2023-10-28T05:44:34.489-07:00Comments on family feeding dynamics: children are tiny, crazy irrational people: dinner theaterfamilyfeedingdynamicshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09049399245893420332noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-79162925956929626712010-03-25T10:01:18.250-07:002010-03-25T10:01:18.250-07:00Clio, I like how you mention that you can be flexi...Clio, I like how you mention that you can be flexible in how you deal with feeding challenges within the framework of the division of responsibility. Kids are so different, and different things work for different kids. Kids also go through phases! I'll just start saying to D how great M is and how much fun, and somehow she senses this and has a few weeks of snarkiness... <br />Miku, thanks for cooroborating! Somehow parents find all of this particularly irksome at the table. A dad recently said to me, "I don't know why, because it doesn't get to me if we're getting into it over other things, but the fights and whining at the table make me insane!" That's why I fgocus so much on getting the fighting out of the feeding relationship.<br />Cleric at Large, LOVE your theater piece! The audience is tricky to deal with. I get people making comment ALL THE TIME. It is hard to feed well in our current culture of abnormal feeding. I worry that with all the obesity hysteria, strangers will feel empowered to butt in more and make more unwanted and unhelpful comments. With family I often just say, "Please follow my lead with this" as many times as needed. With strangers I politely try to just cut them off! Good luck!familyfeedingdynamicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09049399245893420332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-57163439336713745332010-03-25T09:37:45.351-07:002010-03-25T09:37:45.351-07:00I will forever treasure the description one Dad of...I will forever treasure the description one Dad offered of his children: partially formed proto-humans.<br /><br />Our theatre was audience-participation theatre, at a Church lunch where ice cream is always served. Ruth wanted ice cream. She always has ice cream. Ice cream is standard at this meal.<br /><br />Mom: oh, look, noodles and cheese for lunch, you like noodles and cheese.<br />Ruth: I am not hungry for noodles and cheese. I am hungry for ice cream. <br />Mom: Noodles and cheese have lots of good things in them that help your body grow big and strong.<br />Ruth: Ice cream gives me energy to play and grow.<br />Mom: Yes, yes it does. Should we have some ice cream, and then you will have lots of energy to eat your noodles and cheese?<br />Ruth: Yes! Yes!<br />Audience: she can't have ice cream before lunch.<br />Mom: why not? don't they have ice cream this week?<br />Audience: but.. sputter... sputter... LUNCH MUST BE FIIIIIIIRRRRRRRSSSSSST<br />Ruth: yay! yummy ice cream!<br />Ruth: <br />Ruth: <br />Ruth: <br />Ruth: <br />Mom: Yumm! What a good lunch. Thankyou everybody who made lunch today.<br />Ruth: Yumm! What a good lunch. Thank you everybody who made lunch today.<br />Audience: But you caaaaan't have ice cream fiiiiiiiirst.<br />Mom: bye bye now, everybody.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-63687878203466320102010-03-25T09:31:03.009-07:002010-03-25T09:31:03.009-07:00The story about the squash reminds me of me as a c...The story about the squash reminds me of me as a child. Even to this day, I'll get burned out on a food and not want it for a few days, but as a child wasn't good at articulating that. <br /><br />My mom would try and make eggs for me, and I would tell her "I hate eggs", when the day before I had eaten a whole pile of eggs. It drove her nuts.Fluffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17105504114828134210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-4633121348891455882010-03-25T09:12:13.018-07:002010-03-25T09:12:13.018-07:00Oh my! Too funny! I have heard you say before that...Oh my! Too funny! I have heard you say before that sometimes it is helpful to think of children as tiny, crazy people and it has helped me immensely. Kudos for not getting sucked in. M was certainly putting you to the test.<br /><br />C has started throwing food at the table. With S, I would push his chair back from the table for a minute and ignore him. It made a big impact and it ended the behavior relatively quickly. We could bring him back to the table and continue. C... well... pushing her back from the table just makes her mad and she comes back behaving worse! The only way to get through to her is to immediately put her down from the table end her meal. Good thing we follow the DOR and have snacks. Otherwise I don't think I would be able to do it and we would have a serious problem on our hands.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08655417148878401828noreply@blogger.com