tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post5909431285673147027..comments2023-10-28T05:44:34.489-07:00Comments on family feeding dynamics: jeans and body imagefamilyfeedingdynamicshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09049399245893420332noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-27391040079405382762010-01-17T08:37:57.879-08:002010-01-17T08:37:57.879-08:00Great comments. SO much to think about. Clio, we d...Great comments. SO much to think about. Clio, we do the best we can don't we and hope for the best! I think this information about feeding is so helpful to parents, I just want to give them tools to maybe avoid some of the feeding messes we see. It will get harder as our kids get older though. Jean, having a kid has certainly made me be kinder to myself, if only to set a good example. You get a grip on the negative self talk. I think to myself, I wouldn't want M wasting time hating her butt or whatever, so I try to extend that same kindness to myself. It works! Thinking consciously about loving your body becomes more unconscious over time.<br />AATB, interesting comment Conor made. Would you feel differently if her were a girl? I don't think we should pretend differences don't exist, so it's not necessarily a bad thing if they were learning about estimating, or units, but if they were measuring for "health" or putting judgment on it of any kind then I think it's not helpful.familyfeedingdynamicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09049399245893420332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-71399856105199618232010-01-15T19:48:12.335-08:002010-01-15T19:48:12.335-08:00Earlier today I had just finished reading this pos...Earlier today I had just finished reading this posting when Conor came home from school and said, "I am the BIGGEST kid in my class." After talking to Conor I am pretty certain that this had to do with some sort of measuring/numbers activity...at least I sure hope so! But an activity that points out the biggest kid in a class..I'm not so sure if that is the right thing to do after reading your posting about body image?? <br />P.S. I did not notice when you unbuttoned your pants, but I was sitting in the back row!All About the Boyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00747903442675743677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-15331026088955812382010-01-15T10:20:12.917-08:002010-01-15T10:20:12.917-08:00Wow! Great post, Katja: it really made me think!...Wow! Great post, Katja: it really made me think! My mom never bought me clothes in the wrong size, but she clearly was really unhappy with her own body, and I think that looking back, my sister and I trace our own body issues in part to that unhappiness.<br /><br />I just wish it weren't so hard!Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06957323192446914622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135990113081206879.post-22331835497080222652010-01-14T11:54:14.077-08:002010-01-14T11:54:14.077-08:00It's hard to be a mom isn't it? We try so ...It's hard to be a mom isn't it? We try so hard, but sometimes you don't know that what you are doing is hurtful until so much later.<br /><br />My mother bought me clothes that were too big when I was a child because she saw both herself and me as too fat. Ironic because I was actually thin back then. I was also desperately unhappy. I bought into the idea that if I could just have the "right" body, I would be happy. <br /><br />Now I have a body that is "wrong" in the eyes of the culture at large, and I am happy, well-adjusted, married to an attractive and wonderful man and have two beautiful children, both of whom are relatively slim. I try very hard (with more or less success) to avoid weight talk of any kind in my house. I try to convey to my children every day that I love them just the way they are, and I hope I will do that whatever size and shape they ultimately turn out to have. I try to feed them well and support their love of movement and activity. I hope it will turn out well...Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08655417148878401828noreply@blogger.com